dating your wifeFebruary 18, 2010 Jamie and I have been married for 8 1/2 years now. Sometimes I can’t believe it’s been that long…it has absolutely FLOWN by. I still remember our weird dating life. I was a different person then. I didn’t really know how to truly love someone, sacrfice for them…she taught me. We’ve been really intentional over these 8 years on continuing to pursue each other. We learned what kind of marriage we DIDN’T want to have by seeing a few boring, risk-free marriages early on. Seeing some of those really compelled us to do ours differently. We wanted to take risks in our marriage and family. We wanted to be daring. To never settle for a boring and mundane marriage. I’m so glad we made that decision, because these 8 years have been ANYTHING but boring. Our lives have been busier and more tiring than ever before. It’s worth it, but it has definitely caused us to see the pertinence for our weekly date nights. Since Amos has come home, we’ve slacked on those date nights quite a bit. It’s been important for us to JUST be at home, so he starts to get a sense of “normal.” Last night was the first date night we’ve had since he’s been home, and it was GREAT. We went to one of our favorite restaurants (Vivo) and just sat and talked and laughed for hours. It was beautiful to take a break from home stuff and just be reminded how kind God is in giving us to each other. Having a team-mate in all of this is crucial. Makes me want to slap dudes in the face for not dating their wife. It’s important. No it’s crucial, really. Dating and pursuing your wife should really be more important and vital than it even was before marriage. Its shouldn’t stop after marriage. So, husband… go get out your calendar and next week take your wife out. And then do it again next week. And the week after. Until you’re old and grey and can’t walk around anymore. Then, have a date night around the TV while you’re both watching Jeopardy and falling asleep at 6:45pm. It will be beautiful. Leave a Reply
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February 18th, 2010 @ 12:19 pm
this is great! thanks for sharing this.
February 18th, 2010 @ 12:50 pm
so we are not old and grey but falling asleep watching jeopardy at 6:45….ahhh oh well…still beautiful.
February 18th, 2010 @ 2:45 pm
Well said! What a great husband!
February 19th, 2010 @ 1:48 pm
I agree that men need to keep dating their wives otherwise we wives eventually will think we are not wanted. Ignoring us just makes us mad and want out. Good luck getting all the men to do it though since it will require them to talk to us. Good for you for doing this for you and your wife.
February 22nd, 2010 @ 10:12 am
I am getting married in April – this stuff is (to say the least) inspirational!
Thank you for sharing a philosophy that SO many singles & couples COMPLETELY miss. I’ve watched multiple marriages in my life fail. Marriages of couples that could have changed the world (literally) – but something went pear-shaped… Somewhere along the line (1) The “Love & Respect” went out the window. (2) Marriage became optional. (3) The pursuit ended…on both sides.
“We (the men) must love FIRST” (M. Carter)
My focus and prayer is that God will prepare my fiancee (Crissy) and prepare me to pursue each other with GREAT and ENDURING desire. That we can be a couple that is 100% on-mission for Him – not our own wants for a comfortable lifestyle. That we would be daring to pursue our dreams. That our daily lives (work & play) would serve him. And that He would use us to do something so wonderful and big and awesome… that it could only possibly be HIS work.
Thanks for the inspiration.
-C&J